Tonight I read Ty Mansfield's post at North Star about his hopes for more dialogue between Mormon leadership and the GLBT community. Although I agree with him that rhetoric has softened, I must say that I don't see much of a change at all in terms of doctrine. Some say that the Church has shifted from implying that homosexuality is a sin to saying that acting on same-sex attraction is the problem. I don't know that that is the case.
The statements I have read dating from the 1950's all make the Church's position clear that homosexuality is a verb, not a noun; a choice, not an orientation. True, they are no longer using the words “illicit,” “diabolical,” “depraved,” and “perverse.” But in the past 4 years we've had several official statements postulating that since "gender" is eternal, gays will be "fixed" in the eternities. This addition to the theology of sexuality seems odd to me. Never before have General Authorities dared to speculate on what will happen to sexual orientation after death.
I don't presume to know, either. It's a very deep and tangled doctrinal subject. But I read posts like this, and I just feel sad.
"I have searched, I have wrestled, I have pleaded. I've wished for my life to end, and came close to ending it. I have argued with friends (and with people I wouldn't really call friends). I have studied, I've fasted, I've prayed. I've offered my heart and my relationship and everything I have and am on the altar of God. I have suffered, physically and spiritually. I have been in the dark, alone. And one day I came through the other side with a profound, unshakable sense that there is nothing wrong with me as regards my sexual orientation. There are things wrong with me; I have physical imperfections/handicaps/disabilities (the most obvious one is my asthma) that I anticipate being fixed in the life to come. But in my love for my husband, I experience only wholeness and goodness that continues to grow in perfection and beauty...Like Job's friends, my friends can only speculate about what is in my heart...We are not inferior."